Today is my Birthday and I am turning the big 3-0. Part of me feels like I should be stressed by this. Like I should be trying harder to lie about my age or pretend its not even happening… but mostly I’m pretty excited.
This is a whole new chapter in my life and honestly I think it’s going to be better then my 20’s. Those years were fast paced, tiresome, confusing and often disappointing. I didn’t know who I was or what I wanted, I was constantly trying to pretend to be someone I wasn’t for the sake of others. I was jumping around from job to job. I was in school for a lot of it and struggling at that. When I went for my Therapists assistants’ diploma I was one of the oldest in the class at 28 and that was weird to.
My 20’s weren’t completely awful though. I met a man that made my heart feel lighter. He made me laugh and we fell in love. He took his time proposing… but it was a good thing. We got so comfortable with each other, and grew into people that work well together. I also found my passion amongst all that schooling and jumping from job to job. When I left high school I wanted to work with youth at risk… but I don’t think that was ever really a good fit for me. Now I have realized that I want the freedom to work for myself, I want to work privately with clients, with a focus on fun and improving quality of life… and I want to work with seniors. (Just a little bit of a flip)
So 30 isn’t that scary. In fact I feel that in this day and age 30 is the new 20. I have time now to do all the things that I didn’t do in the last decade, and I’m glad that I didn’t, because now I can do it all right!
Plans for my 30’s
My 20’s were an important decade of self-discovery, immaturity and adventure. I had the chance to explore a bit of my world (enough to know I need to see more) to learn what type of person I want to be. I got married late in the game, so no, there are no children yet, and I’m still unsure if there will be. I do however know a couple things that I want to make happen in the next decade
Starting my Career
The biggest goal that I have for the next decade is to start my career. Not only do I finally have an idea of what I want to be when I grow up… but I have decided that I want to be my own boss! I’m sick of employers treating me like I am just a pawn, co-workers spending the days bitching and complaining, and getting paid about half of what I am worth. No more I say! I plan to start working privately, one on one with clients with a focus on recreation, fitness and fun! I will never have to go to the same boring office day after day. I will decide the hours (well of course the clients will have a bit of say), and if I call in sick, I know my boss will be very understanding. Im so excited to finally have the chance to do this!
Relationship and families
Like I said before, my Mr. and I are newly weds and we still don’t have a lot of plans when it comes to starting a family. The big thing though now is that I’m pretty sure I know what I want. I am sick of having old people ask me what my plans for kids are and saying that I’m pretty sure I don’t want them, and being told that I will change my mind. Well at 30, if I haven’t changed my mind by now… I think it’s unlikely to happen. I feel comfortable in the decisions that we have made. Minds might still be changed obviously, but either way I am comfortable and secure about it now!
On top of that I know that my Mr. and I will be happy together whatever happens. Gone are the days of uncertainty. I look forward to the nights spent cuddled quietly in each other’s arms, or the uninterrupted mornings, sitting in bed sipping coffee. We will have grand adventures together, take care of each other and always love each other ~ Always~
Ok so my bank account might not have changed as much as it should have between 20’s and 30’s but I know more now and I feel more comfortable in dealing with it. Most of all I have learnt it’s true value. It may not buy happiness but it does buy fun! We are still working on paying off the student loan debt that my education has incurred and we are trying to save for a home of our own one-day, but in the meantime, the spare cash that we have is being better spent. We have learnt to value quality over quantity, and what items should be bought for cheap, and what’s worth spending the extra on. I have learnt that the money spent on a night out is not a waste but an investment in memories. I’ve also learnt that it’s never really worth stressing about but it’s important to always be aware of, and I know that it is not worth being your main focus in life. There is so much more.
This is going to be a bit backwards to what you might think I was going to say but if you’ve been paying attention you might have picked up that I am a bit of an introvert (with some anxiety issues). I have been all my life, but until now I thought that was a quality of mine that I had to change, like it was a negative. I thought that I had to force myself out into social situations. That I would beat my introverted side down like you would fight a cancer. I am so happy that I was wrong! There is absolutely nothing wrong with being an introvert! Over the years I have forced myself out of the house to spend uncomfortable evenings with friends and acquaintances when really I would have been much happier at home, hanging out, and writing. I am finally ok with saying no thank you to the invite and hanging out in my PJ’s guilt free!
I still love to see my friends, and I now know who my good friends really are. They are the ones who understand when I suddenly cancel plans (because the anxiety won that day) and the people who are happy to hang out and watch movies, or go for long quiet hikes. They don’t expect me at parties, and they know that if I do show up, that means something!
I still look like I’m about 23 on a good day, which I think is really helping me deal with the fact that I am 30. I still get called Kiddo, and I am still expected to do more, lift more, and move faster because I am “young”, and for the most part I can. However my body wasn’t built all that well and I struggle with some chronic muscle pains, and headaches among other things. However I have spent my 20’s learning ways to be healthier, stronger and more flexible. I have finally got a handle on my body issues and I can really start enjoying this temple I live in. I have gotten past the phase of being able to eat anything and I have become conscious of what I put into AND onto my body. I know I need to stay moving, to be able to stay moving and that building strength and endurance should be number one on my priorities list. I’m ONLY 30 and I have plans for this body for possibly double that many years in the future.
I can also say that I have gotten over a lot of my little insecurities. I can wear a bathing suit proudly and without a cover up, unless it’s really sunny cause I burn fast! I am happy naked and I love every inch of me. My hair is going grey and my face is getting wrinkles, but they are like little badges of honour, congrats for making it this far! I was so insecure for so long… this freedom is amazing.
I think the thing that I am looking forward to most in my 30's is the adventures that I am going to have. I want to see the world and all the crazy awesomeness that it has to offer. Travel options have been pretty limited so far, mostly due to time and money but we are slowly starting to get a grasp on the intricacies of both and we have some plans in the works. I've also figured out what I want in an adventure. I am happy to stay in Canada as long as I can see new things and be among the mountains.
There is so much about my 30's that I am looking forward to.. but today I am excited to spend the day with my family and my love and this weekend.. we Party!
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